No more bending like a pretzel *
Updated: Feb 1, 2022
* meaning : f*ck the boxes
Stop bending into pretzel and stop torturing yourself to fit into the boxes you were not meant to fit.
You are unique, too magnificent to fit into any boxes .
Stop bending into pretzel and stop torturing yourself to fit into the boxes you were not meant to fit. You are unique, too magnificent to fit into any boxes . Your task is:
1. to notice when you are so uncomfortable that you suffer
2. name the limiting box ( what’s the label) that causes it and
3.realise you don’t have to fit into it.
I mean there are soooooo many of those boxes.
Bigger ones, but also so subtle sometimes, that they are hard to notice.
“Why aren't you married yet? Why are you so fat? so small, so big, so silent, so loud, so delicate, so poor, so rich, so blond, so brown? Why you don't have children, why are you stay at home mum, why are you a slat, why don’t you have more sex? Why are you so stupid, do you have to be so smart? Why do you work so much? Why are you so unsuccessful? Be rich, don’t have more money then your husband. Why are you so dreamy why don't you dream at all? Why are you so feminine, why so masculine? Why are you so stressed, why are you so moody, aren't you too happy? Why are you so shy, why are you so exposed…. be sexy, don’t be so provocative. etc
There is so many of those boxes telling us who we should be and do and if you look closer they are often totally contradicting
But your emotional system notices them easily. We were taught to live with the discomfort of them but the emotions are telling you when you are pushing yourself in the small box. Just start listening to those emotions.
The moment you feel emotional pain.
STOP, and ask yourself :
“which box am I trying to squeeze myself into?”
“What’s the label?”
Imagine if there is nobody to judge you. And there are no boxes to fit in- what amazing relief you would experience.
We are stuck in so many boxes our body and souls are constantly deformed, squeezed, divided . How can we not be in physical and emotional pain in such uncomfortable deformed positions that we are not designed to be. Our souls, Universe , God ( whatever you choose to believe in) sees so much more potential and freedoms for us . Our souls are bigger than that, our paths are more unique, our mission so much bigger. I am sorry ( not sorry) but f..ck the boxes. Tear them, shred them and stand up straight, tall and free.
Who created these boxes in the first place, why do we accept them as the right size and shape for us. We are the only ones knowing what’s the right size and shape for us . So go shred the limited, uncomfortable boxes and enjoy your uniqueness and beauty. Instead of looking outside ourselves how to fit, look inside yourself for how to expand, how to become bigger, brighter, unstoppable, magnificent .
You are a huge force- feel it inside. This force, this energy can’t be restricted . It’s not supposed to be restricted. You were given this force to create an amazing life for yourself and for others. So let me repeat it again: F..ck the boxes.
examples of painful boxes:
1.big one: you have to be married by… (certain age) If not you are a failure—> super uncomfortable patriarchy’s box and total nonsense placing our value on some outside standards created by society.
2.You have to be skinny, "size 36" box to be happy ( you can if that is your natural body or you wish to look like that but you don’t have to to be valuable )- another bullshit, we were all created in a beautiful unique ways.
4.That only physical beauty gives happiness in life - also crap- so many so called beautiful people is depressed and more normal super happy
3. That your value depends on the job you have. Nonsense- its nice to have a job you like and fulfils you but you are valuable from the day you were born just by the fact you exist and you don’t need to prove your value by some outside factors
5. that Chanel bag makes you a better person. it does not.
it's maybe nice to have one but you are equally amazing without it, and if somebody likes you for your bag it's not really your friend...
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